Don't make us buy your love

Personally, I think kids once grown should forgive their parents, accept their oddities and love them unconditionally. We all raise our kids to the best of our ability..be it limited ability or some awesome cookie baking soccor mom. We know where we've failed and your making fun and dissin us doesn't help us get better...it just makes us feel unloved and unworthy..not a pretty feeling.
We have to accept lifestyles we don't approve of, or feel is hurting God. We're not allowed to express how we feel about that, but are snarled at or even cut off if we say anything..yet kids are allowed to lash out at us and call us old fuddy duddies. We walk on egg shells while our kids have the freedom to wear their combat boots. It feels like we have to buy a crumb of love and that crumb can be removed at will..meanwhile as parents we cannot cut off our love, our longings for relationship with our kids..it's built in us and although we feel great pain by our kids, cannot stop loving them. We cannot stop wanting God's best for them. Just the way it is I guess, but I don't have to like it.